Do you remember?

Do you remember the song that was playing during your first slow dance? This is not mine but I like this song. I will just listen to this as I try to think back to the seventh grade dance. I wore a pink dress with a white lace collar. I went alone because I was too young to date although I did like somebody. I can’t say we really slow danced as much as stood close to each other and moved in sync to the music. Yes I know this song is more appropriate for a wedding but I’m not reflecting on that memory at this moment.
Take it away Randy!

Beaches

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Although the title and picture suggest otherwise, this post is not about vacationing or hotspots to visit with your children. This is about the movie Beaches staring Bette Midler. Side note, if you are over 18 and have never seen this movie, today is the day for you to start living. It’s a heart warming tear jerker. There are a plethora of themes and life lessons to glean from this movie such as friendship, relationships, life after failed marriages, success, dreams, hopes, survival, endurance and dare I say resilience.

Who amongst us has not faced at least one of the minor or major themes of the movie? I have experienced several myself. I am still experiencing some. However, I do not allow the challenges of life to get me down for too long. I choose to live in the 85%. That’s a part of yet another of my theories. Life tends to be an 85/15 split. The 85 represents all the good things in life and the 15 represents the not so good. I believe we tend to focus on the 15% of life and allow that part to keep us down. Some days the 15 seems so big and perhaps it is big. But don’t allow the 15 to overshadow the 85 for too long.

If all else fails, go to the beach and enjoy the view.

If love…

If love had a face I know it would look like you
If love had a name I know it would be yours
If love had eyes I know they would look like yours
If love had a voice it I know it would sound like yours
If love has a meaning you defined it

Written by…me

Wax on…wax off

Wax on, wax off…these four little words have been on my mind daily for over a week. Does that ever happen to you? You get something stuck in your head and you don’t know why. I’m not talking about songs you hear like the Diamonds by Rihanna that my dear friend Fraulein Von Prude and I would torture each other with. I am talking about a word or phrase that drops in your mind for no good reason or so it seems.
I remember watching the original Karate Kid and I watched the newest version with the Fantastic4 last year. I can’t say that I remember a whole lot of detail about either movie but this quote keeps popping up in my mind. I did what I do when this happens to me, I contemplated what it means to me and mine. Then, I top that with some research to determine the true or implied meaning.
See the video here.
I could go into a long monologue about doing the small things consistently and diligently will lead to a greater reward. I could talk about the importance of following directions. I could tie this into being a good mentor or teacher. I could even reference my own life as both the teacher and the student. But I won’t. Instead I will talk more about listening to your inner voice. It’s the one that gives you ideas or inspiration. For me it also provides direction, poetry and blog ideas.
When these words pop into my head and won’t leave, I know I need to stop and take a look at my life. I see this as an opportunity to grow and develop personally. Wax on… wax off, I can’t say that I have a full understanding of how this applies to me right now but I do know I will keep contemplating until I understand how it applies to my life today or in the near future.

Dating Advice

* Make sure his or her dream is bigger than your reality.
* Clingy may be cute early on but not so much years later.
* Love is a four letter word that deserves its own category.
* If you are making excuses for their behavior early on, back away slowly then run.
* Take your time to get to know each other.
* Chemistry is a class you take.
* Believe what they say and do.
* Expectations are not a bad thing.
* Show the day to day you early on.

Are you stuck?

I saw this video in a class I was attending. I hope you get as much out of it as I did the first time and every time I see the video.

A Box of Chocolates

My momma always said, “Life was like a box of chocolates. You never know what you’re gonna get.” – Forrest Gump
I can remember every year around Christmas time my mom would have a box of Sees chocolates sitting around. Back then, they didn’t provide you with an easy to follow illustration that helped you determine the type of filling. I did what some of you did, I bit a tiny piece off of bottom of the candy until I found one I liked. You know the routine, you bite one and if it’s not what you were looking for then you put it back.
Although the original intent of this post was to bring back a fond memory, I feel compelled to ask, is this how we treat relationships today? Take a sample, then put it back when we realize it wasn’t what we wanted. The chocolate that is left in the box is now incomplete and not as desirable to the next person. If you were the next person, how did you get past the incompleteness of the chocolate? Maybe it’s not that big of a deal. Maybe…